Things, I learned about Life, in my 40 years of living...

and how it evolved me as an individual.

Photo by Denys Nevozhai on Unsplash

Recently I celebrated my 40th birthday. Birthdays are the best days to reflect on things in life. While collecting thoughts & experiences from the days gone by, helped me to list out a few of my learning in this journey.

Honestly, these learning were always there, I simply discovered them while walking….

1. There is no success in life unless you define it for yourself.
2. No one understands how hard it is for you unless you speak up.
3. Self-worth is priceless. If not understood at the time, we will keep losing our — life, relation & money.
4. Self-awareness is what makes us, who we are. It is much more than knowing your favorite color & dress.
5. If you want your kid to understand the family system, first become part of your own family in the true sense.
6. Narcissism is the biggest killer to humanity. They can destroy your soul, and healing can be life long. Learn to detect & eliminate narcissist quickly from your life.
7. What you say doesn’t matter, what you do is.
8. Love is real when you can add value to the life of people whom you love. Else it is just a Noun.
9. Do not forget three kinds of people in life - i.) Those who were not there with you when you needed them the most, ii.) Those who were beside you when you needed them the most, and iii.) People who are the prime reason for you being in the current position of life Good OR Bad.
10. Earn your money, Always.
11. Read, Read, and Read.
12. If you have never valued any of your relationships in your life, chances are high for you to not value your marriage as well. Marriage is just another relationship, love alone can not make it last forever.
13. Parents, in the end, are mere humans. Do not make them God. They can also be highly irresponsible, selfish, careless, clueless, controlling, toxic, and narcissistic individuals.
14. Abuse in any relationship should never be accepted, whether it is physical, verbal, or emotional.
15. If you keen to improve on yourself first dig deep into your childhood, it is the prime reason, that shapes you, who you are today.
16. People look for gossip always, and they will try to pull you down in the same mess. Be alert & stay away from them.
17. Let People know loudly when you love them and also when you don’t.
18. Maintain some integrity & moral ground in your character, to offer in your relationships.
19. Develop some personality, interest & skill.
20. Trust People unless they broke your trust, Once broken there will not be any re-grate for not giving them fair chance.
21. Always strive to become a Rich Person in life — rich in thought, rich in kindness, rich in being human, rich in every relationship that you are blessed with. rich in offering love & care. And rich in wealth.
22. Money, whether saved OR invested, the true nature of money is to grow. and purpose of it, to help us grow. If it not following its nature & neither fulfilling its purpose, every penny earned is a waste.
23. Don’t follow fashion blindly, rather develop your sense of style.
24. A temporary solution will always bring temporary results, never rush to find any.
25. Age as a number has very little significance in life.
26. Respect everyone else journey. Do not judge people, you never know where they are coming from
27. Closure, you will never get in any toxic relations. Do not wait for it.
28. Life is meant to live & experience, not to concur milestones
29. Respect is more important in any relationship than love.
30. The world is filled with mean people, don’t get shocked when you meet them on daily basis.
31. Educate yourself in the true sense.
32. People-pleasing is like an illness, in case you are suffering from it, cure yourself.
33. Address all your emotions, feelings & thoughts unless you understand them.
34. Mental & emotional health is equally as important as physical health.
35. Photos are meant to capture the memories. With all the latest technology in our hand these days, whether we want to create memory first, or wish to live in the moment, is still on us to decide.
36. Humanity is above all religion, cast & community.
37. We should never forget our privileges and history while enjoying success. Privileges are the blessing we are born with.
38. Good friends in life are like the warm sun in winter, without them it is difficult to survive harsh weather.
39. Stay away from people who say, they have no interest in life.
40. When you start your day is not important, How you start your day is. Focus more on that.